"While warm and compassionate throughout the parenting relationship, what INFJs are really looking forward to is being able to communicate and relate to the person they helped to raise, as equals."
This is sounds almost identical to what my Father told me when i was in 8th grade. I even called him up to ask him if he remembers what he told me. For me the rebellious teenager phase came a little earlier, I was in eight grade and I realized how insignificant junior high was to my future, so I just put my pencil down and stopped caring. I got terrible grades that semester. When my dad found out I was getting a D in PE, that was his breaking point. He took me to baseball diamond near his house and he sat me down on the bleachers. He said "Son, when you're thirty five, married and have kids of your own, we can be friends, but right now your acting like a little whiny brat, so I don't want to be your friend."
When I become a Father this sounds like something I will dread from the day they are born. Almost every TV show and Movie that involves a family-based theme shows teenagers being rebellious and stupid. I hope I never have to be the one responsible for one of those idiots.
Having said that, My personality type says that I will be a compassionate parent who is always there for their kids. Which is definitely a strength I can see myself possessing. I believe an Ideal parent is someone who is always present, and involved in their kid's lives. I think its important for the kid's and for the parents. What if Batman had parents that were always there for him. He might have been twice as awesome.
Batman has no parents...
"INFJs will also push their children to think independently, make their own choices and establish their own beliefs."Nothing annoys me more than over-controlling parents, i don't think kids are as stupid as some people think they are, they just need their space to think about what they are doing. That was my Mother's technique when I did something mean or stupid. She would just tell me. "Isaiah, go to your room and think about what you did." then 30 minutes later she would come into my room, I would apologize, and thats was the end of it. I was never grounded and I was never denied my freedom for more than an hour. Just like my mother I will teach my kids how to be Independent and make their own choices. Which is another strength of the INFJ parenting description I agree with.
"If INFJs’ children take a contrarian approach, adopting beliefs that violate their parents’ own well-developed principles, INFJs are likely to feel like their children are pointing out their flaws by following another path, a hurtful thing to such a sensitive personality type."
"What would you do If your kids aren't Star Wars geeks?" a question that has been asked to me by several different people. It's also something that I'd rather not think about. But this is my homework so let's get it over with.
Because of how independent my children will learn to be, they will start to discover their own interest and beliefs about the world. Just like I am not as religious as my father, my kids might not be as nerdy as I am. And that might make me feel hurt and will be considered a weakness of mine. But as time will go on I think I will be able to accept them for who they are. Even if they are interested in things like.... dare I say it... sports. O' merciful Kenobi I hope they don't like sports.
This might happen if they dont
like Star Wars.
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